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Smiles are Beautiful – Things I want to teach my kids

There is no doubt that the materialistic world we live in favors the beautiful. So one of the things I’d like to teach the children I may someday have is that smiling is a powerful tool in beautifying yourself in a world that favors beauty.

It’s not that I want to raise shallow children. Of course I want to teach them to look beyond the surface of people and basically anything and everything else but I don’t want them to naively think that the world treats people equally. People are treated differently based on how they look. There is no arguing that, but with a smile we can present ourselves as  a little more beautiful to the world.

And of course, part and parcel, when you smile at people they smile back.

Life is like a mirror, we get the best results when we smile at it.
~ Unknown

Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
~Mother Teresa


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Teaching Kids the Right Way – Things I want to teach my kids

I was bumbling around and found a site Penelope Trunk’s site, specifically this post about motivation. I thought it was a good one. Of course, there are things I agree with and things I don’t. The article talks about letting kids learn what they want to learn. A fantastic concept but one that I think, in reality, isn’t going to work all the time. Surely there are things you want to teach your children that they don’t want to learn.

Reading more posts in the Home Schooling section of that site gives some great ideas that I would love to bring to my children and their learning. But still, I don’t think I can afford to home school them, as great as that sounds and as terrible as schools are starting to look, once you have your eyes opened.

Let kids learn what they want to learn. Look to see what interests them and how they start to learn about it and yourself learn from that. How do your kids learn? Use that.

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Handling Regret – Things I want to teach my kids

I’m sitting here trying to get some work done and from out of nowhere a memory I am ashamed of burst into my head. Other times when this memory has burst into my head, I have had physical reactions to the memory. My cheeks and ears burned red and my head dropped down in shameful regret.

This regretful action wasn’t anything illegal. It was something I said at a party when I was new to alcohol that caused the other person, who came up to introduce himself to me, to stand there speechless for a moment then having nothing else to say, to walk away and never speak to me again. It wasn’t offensive, racist, sexist or bad what I said, but it put a wall up and when I remember the moment I regret it.

Today however, instead of looking down and reliving the personal shame, I looked up and shook my head at how young and stupid I was. And this is something I want to eventually teach my kids (I don’t have children as of yet).

You will do stupid stuff. You will do things you regret. But don’t relive every failure and shame yourself into thinking you are a lesser person. Learn from these failures. Laugh at the stupidity and realise you have learnt how not to do something and that next time you will have more success.